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Wordless Wednesday: the Naked Gamer

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I am eleven (11) days post-op for my spinal concerns and I am disheartened. It is getting harder and harder to remain optimistic about my recovery and what functionality I will be left with.

Before any of you say it is only eleven days, you must understand I have had this type surgery on two prior occasions.  In both of these prior instances, the relief I felt was almost immediate. I was up and walking, extensively within hours of my surgery. After this surgery it was almost four days before I could walk without agonizing pain.  I still have significant foot drop and neuropathy, all things that had improved drastically at  this point in my prior recoveries. I can only walk without my cane for a very short distance. If I walk very far at all I start stumbling and tripping over the ground. I am still reliant on prescription  pain medication more than I care to be.

The status of my recovery is causing me stress. I am worrying over what the future holds.  I worry what I will not be able to perform the essential functions of my job, my career. Then I worry what will I do if  I can’t do what I have been doing? I don’t know that I have the proper skill set to do anything else that will bring in a comparable income.  This comes as my oldest is about to start college, and I will have a child in college for the next decade.

I guess I will do what I must, just like I always have. I friend of mine once said “Steve, you have to quit worrying about the things you can not change.”  My response was ” Damn it Bob, the things I can change don’t worry me in the least, I just change them. It’s the things I can’t control that stress the hell out of me.”  Every time I get stressed about things beyond my control, I recall his words, but my response is still the same.

Writing this is in its own way a form of stress therapy.

Thanks For Reading

Steve AKA FatherNoRest

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Steve AKA FatherNoRest

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Last night we were under tornado warnings,  but most of the storms skirted around my neighborhood.  This morning as I look at the news, I realize how lucky we were  and what could have been.  It makes me stop and put my worries and problems in perspective.

As I say, my particular area was lucky, but many in our region have lost everything.  People to North, South and West of our area were hit by tornadoes.  To get a better idea of what I am referring to, you can see WAVY TV’s Slide Show of damage. You can also go see WTKR TV’s video of the aftermath.  I have seen news reports of worse damage in North and South Carolina. If you feel so moved please consider donations to the South Eastern Virginia Red Cross Chapter . Or a American Red Cross chapter in one of the other regions that received these devastating storms.
I have been stressed over my recent surgery, worried about my recovery.  Worrying whether I will be allowed to return to my job once my convalescence period is up. This morning those worries are placed aside and I am thankful. I am thankful that I got to hug the beautiful bride and each one of my children this morning, that I got to hug my Dad before he left to go back to West Virginia. I am thankful that I awoke in a warm, dry bed. I  was able to turn on the water and have fresh clean water to pour in my coffee maker, the electricity was working to allow my coffee to be brewed. Many things we all take for granted, as we complain about our problems and lament our poor luck, so many do not have.  Even though my back has and is currently causing some inconvenience, I have a great life. I have the basic necessities that many in the region would consider a luxury right now.

It is a shame that it takes the misfortune of others for many of us to count our blessings, and though I have many of my own worries and issues, they are nothing to that of those affected by last nights nasty weather.

Thanks for Reading and please consider a donation to the Red Cross. You don’t have to use the link I provided or the chapter I linked to.  Look over the news reports and pick one of  the many regions of the Mid-Atlantic / South-East that was devastated and do what you can to help.

Steve AKA FatherNoRest

An Open Letter of Gratitude

To all my family, friends, tweeps, Facebook friends, Blog readers and some people I don’t even know,

I have received so many well wishes, positive vibes and prayers. I am truly grateful that you took time from your own concerns to consider mine.

I have found my name to be on the prayer list of the church that my ex-wife, her husband and my three older children attend. I have had prayers offered up by many of numerous beliefs, so chances are one of you is right lol. Personally, I am not very religious. However, I am thankful that so many of you took time to think of me in your prayers and thoughts. To those who know the strangers who sent vibes or prayers on my behalf, please convey my gratitude.

As I am on morphine and percocet, I will wrap this up. But will say once again, THANK YOU ALL

Steve AKA FatherNoRest

PS excuse anything that makes no sense, as I am receiving very good pain management.